Maybe I'm just out of touch, but I don't understand the 1st birthday party ritual.
We got an invite to Beanie's party at a playground--no, not the typical swingset and picnic table playground, more like a fairy tale themed fair. A bunch of kids are coming. And it's got the pizza delivery, cake and icecream. And spans thru lunch and a naptime.
From what I can tell, this is normal. And I have no issues with it. If that's what you want, go for it. It's your life, your kid, your time, and your money.
I got asked about Sasha's since he's only a month younger than Beanie, and I told them I actually hadn't planned on doing anything. I was going to make him a shortcake with apricot sauce, and cut fruits. Take lots of photos of him as a giant mess. And get him a sandbox and wading pool. Maybe have a few family members over--at least those who acknowledge their relation to Sasha--and sloppy joes (Sasha likes them with my special healthy recipe). But that was it. No big fete. Just little special things that our baby will like.
I got a lot of shocked reactions for that. And tales of the cast of hundreds they invited to their kids first birthdays. And the events, catering, etc.
Am I just a bad Mom?
But the way I see it, Sasha doesn't know that's a special day. And he's not going to remember his 1st birthday either so it's not like we're building memories for him. I figure it's better for him to go smaller. Then his naps won't be disturbed and he can better enjoy himself. Not to mention, I really don't want to go into debt for a kids birthday party. Especially one where the kid in question hasn't a clue what's going on.
But then again, am I just too much of a hippy? Too into the "let your baby do things at their own pace", be all-natural, no-pressure way of life? I mean, I've already been admonished by these folks for breastfeeding Sasha. And for not allowing him to eat anything I'd consider "junk food". But I don't feel that being a little needy of Mommy when he's still a baby is bad. Nor do I think that at such a young age he needs to develop a taste for sugar-laden, fatty, salty, highly processed foods. There is time enough for all that later. Isn't there?