Thursday, April 17, 2008

Twilight Zone continues....

I got the below e-mail today. Interesting.

Mostly because for the past few days the paper reports we'd gotten had him being a happy boy. Even jokes had been made from her saying how she didn't know who this child was, but it wasn't the Sasha I had brought her at the start. So this sudden backpeddle? I've no idea where it's coming from.

As for only being able to cater to him, I dunno if I beleive that. You see, when Hubby would pick him up? He was always strapped in a high chair playing by himself. When I've snuck around to peek in windows to see how he was doing? He'd be playing himself again...with their toys or play kitchen or something.

So it just doesn't seem to ring true.

I do know she just didn't seem to like him. When we'd come in we generally came in with another mother/son pair and she'd be fawning all over this boy. We'd barely get acknowledged. Meanwhile, she'd be saying--loud enough so we could hear--how much better a boy this other little boy was. And part of it could be the bad start. Part could be that he's at the age where he's only extremely affectionate with those he has bonded to. And even then he can be a little odd about the affection...remember that only recently has he decided to kiss me at all. And I'm his Mom.

And then there's the constant "well if he were full-time..." To me it sounds like a request for more money. And if things are that bad? Why would I want my kid there MORE?!?

-----Original Message-----
From: Daycare Lady

Sent: Thursday, April 17, 2008 1:51 PM
To: Becoming Mommy

Subject: Re: Daycare
Hi Mommy,
I know we had talked about Sasha possibly being here more and see if that would help him settle in better. Unfortunately, the current arrangement isn't working, for either Sasha or us. Unless we come up with a better game plan I am giving my notice. I would be happy to return your money for the next two weeks but unfortunately I am unable to provide care for Sasha, in this present condition. He is not happy and continues to cry all day which makes for a very stressful day for us as well as the kids. Due to his crying we are unable to do anything with the other children. He continues to cries during nap and that keeps all the kids up. This makes for some very crabby kids in the afternoon, again making it very stressful environment. I am sorry but I just can't continue like this. I didn't want to wait and drop this on Dad at pick up time so I am e-mailing you. Please contact me if you should have any questions or concerns. Thank you and good luck in your childcare search. I am sorry.


caramama said...

Oh man. That's just crazy. Are you going to call her and ask what had changed because things were going better?

Yeah, it just looks like that place is not a good fit. Even if she simply doesn't like him as much as another (and how could that be, when your boy is SO adorable???), I think kids pick up on the playing favorites that teachers and caregivers may do.

Good luck in your search. :)

sheSaidC2 said...

wow! That is just not a good situation clearly. They should love your kid! We started looking at providers last night... long daunting road.

La folle maman said...

You can read between the lines in her email that she was apparently not willing to make it work for whatever reason. That really stinks. Definitely sounds like time for a switch, however, I understand how much of a job that is itself.

I often wonder what I would do if our situation suddenly didn't work. It's been such a lifesaver to be able to have some free time to complete my work and other things.

Good luck with the search!

Burgh Baby said...

I'm strangely relieved. Your whole string of posts had given me the impression that it wasn't an ideal situation because it seemed like Daycare Lady just wasn't on her 'A' game. Apparently, she knew that, even if she is trying to make it seem like Sasha is the problem. Clearly, she is the problem.

Good luck with the search. Somewhere there is someone who Sasha will mesh with perfectly and it'll be smooth sailing.